You know, I quit. I just quit. To be improperly over-honest, I really don’t even freaking care anymore.  

And I’m not sorry. 


Haven’s day

It’s Kelli day. Today marks 36 years since I lost my twin, and it’ll always be Kelli day for me..


THIS Kelli day will be special.. As I try and find the words for how amazing it will be, the world around me is preparing for the birth of our first grand baby, Miss Haven Austyn Howell.

It’s like the world has been holding its breath while we all wait to meet her, and I look forward to seeing how very blessed we will be just to love her.

So while it will still be Kelli day next year and the year after, today will now be little Haven’s day as well. What a blessing..

Maybe we will smile instead of cry.. ❤️

No country for old men

Cooper, our 100lb bully.

He turned 7 this past September, though we’ve had him since he was about 10 weeks old. He’s a good boy, always has been.. I’d swear he was born crate trained and without an ugly bone in his giant body.

Last year he was hit by a car. Knocked him silly and tore his hip out of socket but he lived. Already in pain from a spinal fusion, we weren’t sure if he’d pull through it or not, but he did

Yesterday he took off with his female, Annabelle. I think every bit of trouble my Cooper has ever seen, he’s seen while trying his best to chase her tail..


Annabelle was on the porch early this morning.

Cooper was not….

Unsent Letters • 12.14.2018

My Love,

I swear I’ll never understand…

I know I said I wouldn’t write anymore letters but I have no other way to get it out.. The love we have today leaves me so utterly confused that I’ve not got very little choice but to write something. If I don’t try and work things out inside my head I’ll just go crazy.. 

And that’s not fun.

At all.

For anyone…

You don’t see that we’ve gone wrong so you won’t try to make us better and I can’t. Not by myself. I don’t know how (believe me, if I did, we wouldn’t be where we are now) but I know that I’m not ready to stop trying.. I’m not ready to stop crying in frustration; I’m not ready to stop the hurt..  Stupid, I know, but it is what it is.. I’m not ready to give up. Period. 

I don’t think you are either..

I mean, we’re still here aren’t we? We’re still fighting each other for something. If it didn’t matter I don’t think it would hurt like it does.. 

Anyway, I really really need to sleep a little more. I just got up to pee and got caught watching you dream.. 

Maybe you’re thinking about me too…..



What Comes Next

So I left. I did. I hugged my kids and packed my car and walked out. Holy SHIT. I’m not often so irrationally compulsive, but for whatever reason, when he popped off at me for no reason I decided that I just couldn’t do it anymore. There wasn’t a chance in Hell I was going to stand there and take another second of some bullshit that I didn’t earn.

Nope. Not happening.

But ummm… what am I supposed to do now?

I don’t know, but I guess I’m about to find out. This should be fun.

The Sunshine Award!

I’ve been nominated for Sunshine Blogger Award by http://Amermaid’sTaleThe content and feelings are really great here. If you aren’t following yet, then do it right nowhttps://kajalwriter.wordpress.com/contact/

Thank you so very much 🙂


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Question & Answers

  1. What is the meaning of love according to you?                                                                       Ans – Love is in the way another soul wants to connect with your own. It’s in the look and in the touch and in the eyes of both the Lover and the Loved.
  2. What is your greatest fear ?                           Ans – My greatest fear is never really being happy again. Not pleased or content or satisfied, but really happy.. You know, earth shatteringly, but wrenchingly, dream inspiringly HAPPY.  The kind of happy that someone would write a song about someday because I’ve been there and I miss feeling at home…
  3. Where do you want to go? ( within your own country)                                                               Ans – If I could go on an adventure to the place of my choice, I would like nothing more than to stick my toes in every ocean on every coastline of America.
  4. Movie/ Book, what would you choose?       Ans – Book
  5. What is your favourite flower?                     Ans – the Dandelion
  6. What is your idea of a perfect day?             Ans – 70° and moderate winds beneath a cobalt blue sky. Maybe a good book or my camera and an ocean.. Any ocean.
  7. Give honest review for my blog. Suggestions/advices are welcomed.                 Ans – I enjoy the words and poetry found here. Within a spectrum of emotion and idea, I am never left unfeeling or unhappy.
  8. Are you happy?                                                  Ans – Sometimes
  9. Do you believe in Astrology?                         Ans – Sometimes
  10. What would you chose between fame and peace?                                                                   Ans – I would choose peace before most anything else in the world.

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My Questions

  1. What’s your favorite song?
  2. If you could change something about yourself what would it be?
  3. Why did you start blogging?
  4. Are you married?
  5. What excited you the most in your life?
  6. Who’s the last person you really hugged, and why?
  7. Do you remember your dreams?
  8. Give honest review for my blog. Suggestions/advices are welcomed.
  9. Would you rather write with a pen, pencil, or comp of some kind?
  10. Do you have a purpose in life?

Happy Blogging! And have fun!!